Masturbation

Masturbation – sex for one

Masturbation is basically sex by yourself. There are little risks involved, you can’t get pregnant or catch a sexually transmitted infection from wanking, and it is much easier to achieve an orgasm.

Masturbation used to have a bit of a bad reputation. Even now some people think it’s dirty or perverted, or something a bit sad – what you do if you can’t get a girlfriend or boyfriend. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

At one time, people used to say that not only was masturbation wrong but it could cause hair to grow on the palms of your hands and even lead to blindness. In fact at one time people were even locked up in asylums as mental health patients if they were caught masturbating.

Fortunately, we are a little bit more sensible these days. We now know that masturbation is actually a healthy part of who we are. Regardless whether you are a girl or boy there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a wank every now and again. In fact masturbation releases endorphins in the brain, these are feel good chemicals which help to combat stress and boost your immune system.

Indeed, it is completely false that masturbation is something that only boys do. It’s just that lads tend to be a bit more open about discussing wanking whereas for girl’s it’s still a bit of a taboo subject – but this doesn’t mean that it isn’t going on so don’t be fooled.

Seriously, masturbation is a fantastic way to get to know your own body – to explore what you like and what turns you on. At the end of the day we are all different and there are no magic buttons to press, so working out what you like is a healthy thing to do. Meet Petey the Penis. He knows a thing or two about masturbation

Try to find some time by yourself when you can really relax and take the time to explore yourself. Your whole body is full of nerve endings too, so don’t spend all your time with your hand in your pants! There are plenty of hidden erogenous zones there for you to discover.

There is no right or wrong way to masturbate – the whole point is to do what feels nice for you.

Can you masturbate too much?! 

There are plenty of jokes about teenagers, especially boys, not being able to keep their hand out of their pants. But it is perfectly natural for some teens to masturbate a lot. However, this sometimes leads to the worry that you can actually masturbate too much. As long as you’re not getting sore and it is not getting in the way of you doing anything else you should be doing, then generally it’s ok.

However, whilst it is great to get to know your own body and it can feel good – don’t the relationship you have with your hand get in the way of you forming meaningful relationships with other people.

One final point, whilst masturbation is nothing to be ashamed of, it is considered bad manners to do it in public. Generally, masturbation is something you do in private rather than at the dinner table or in polite company.

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© Going off the Rails 2012. Adapted from ‘Playing Downstairs’ by Jonny Hunt

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